Thursday, 13 March 2014

Vodka won't hug you back.

Today you guys are being spoilt with something a little different. Instead you can all be serenaded with the words of Emma, one of those poor few that have to put up with me this year. Best known within our group for having a wicked sense of humour and always filling our lives with her hilarious anecdotes. She's the perfect person to ask about her university experience and so when I asked her what she'd learnt at university and this was her reply....

I come from a rather large family; I have 2 sisters, 2 brothers and 2 completely dedicated parents (my house should be renamed, Noah's ark). Although I am the first to go to university there is one education they all have - a degree from the University of Life. Being the youngest of the bunch, they had some true words of wisdom to send me away with, advice that like many a lectured sibling or child, I ignored. So here it is, my guide to making the right friends.

When you first start university as much as your parents tell you that you are there to better your education and future; you and I both know that that's not the first thing on your mind. Making friends is a common worry among all new students. Are they going to like me? Am I funny enough? Will they accept me and my extensive toenail collection? It's an understandable worry. But you have to realise everyone is in the same position.

What I wished I had listen to before hand is the accurate - although cynical - view that fast friends are not always future friends. First year is brilliant, you have a large overdraft that the kind and rather hot bank lady gave you, your parents have left you with nothing but your independence, a recipe for Spag Bol and a £2.99 3 litre bottle of Strongbow and you're off to pre-drink with your new house mates/course mates and possible drunk people you have met in the lift of your building.

What is hard to grasp when you are constantly dazed by the sheer volumes of alcohol you are consuming and the haze of hangovers that follow, is how true these friends are when the many bottles of Lambrini and copious array of shots have left your system. When freshers has finished and the 7-14 day binge has slowed (only slightly) take the time to really get to know the people you've shared the end of the beer bong with. 

In all student halls and student houses, people have been placed in such positions where the necessity of niceties is paramount in making friends. Delving into a persons true nature is really worth doing, especially if your plans are to continue avoiding the washing up and doing 3am chocolate runs to the 24/7 shop together for the remainder of your uni life. Only when you sit down and find real connections with people that aren't based on the similarity of your drinking abilities will you find your true friends.

It is common opinion of university graduates that the friends you meet at uni are your friends for life and this is true, they really are. You and your house/course mates go through so much together, moving out, money problems, adult relationships (adult break ups!) and so much more. The trick is to work out who are those whom you like to go out and have a great time with, walking home with various traffic accessories, riding home in trolleys or even police cars; and those who you can cry with, share things with and laugh with without the need to actually impress. 

Uni is a great experience and by all means I'm not telling you to find the nearest psychology student and lock them in your room to force your problems on over a packet of Rolos but just to be weary that good friends come when you take the time to get to really know each other, take your time. You probably grew up with your friend's from home so consider the time it took for you guys to become what you are now.

Remember, uni friends are for life, not just for student night.

1 comment:

  1. Hi Emma :) Lovely to meet you. Sounds like you are having a complete ball at Uni and really enjoying it. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x